3 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Strangers on the Internet

The Look: similar skirt from boohoo ($40.00) // similar dress by Tadashi Shoji from Nordstrom ($268.00) // Carolee Necklace [n/a] – Similar one from BaubleBar ($68.00) // similar Shoes of Prey pumps from Nordstrom ($189.95) // similar Michael Kors crossbody from Macy’s ($148.00) The Lesson: It was a Saturday night in March. I was getting ready for my friend Christina’s birthday party (who, by the way, is hands down the best fashion/personal stylist I’ve ever met AND she took the pretty pictures for this post!). Like a tornado spewing debris across the landscape, my closet was ending up on the floor at an impressive speed. Nothing was fitting right. UGHHH! After an eternity, I determined I’d be wearing the skirt pictured (thanks Claire <3). And so, the storm began again as I tried to figure out what to wear up top. Unsatisfied with everything, I pulled out this black lace dress from the depths of my

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He Said, She Said: A Tale of Two Oms

My boyfriend, Shaun, and I have a pretty unique dynamic. He’s working his butt off to make it as a musician (and also helps me a ton with my business), and I’m over here doing the whole “whatever I gotta do to not have a real boss” thing.  What I am most passionate about has always been stories, and it always seems like we’re constantly in the midst of a tale that could be made into a Netflix series someday. Our relationship doesn’t necessarily have a lot of drama – unless we’re trying to figure out how to re-arrange the living room – but life always does seem to be throwing a lot of turbulence at us that we imperfectly navigate together. So, we’re starting a new series here at The Gem where you’re going to get both sides – mine and his – of the story. Complete with life lessons,

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4 Brands Built By Entrepreneurs Dealing with Depression

The look: similar skirt from ASOS ($48.00) // similar romper (yep, that’s a romper that I have the skirt pulled over in this look!) from ShopBop ($73.50 – ON SALE!) // similar shoes from shoe.com ($79.95) // Asymmetrical Green Amethyst & Sterling Silver Necklace ($50.00) and Sterling Silver Long Drop Ripple Earrings ($26.00) from Soasa Designs // Juniper Rattan Handbag from Purse for the People ($200.00) // Maternal Mental Health CHARITY TIES™ Bracelet from Maria Shireen ($45.00) // “Storms and Sunshine” Mug from Cricket Lane Studio ($15.00) // Temporary tattoos from Soul Stamps ($10) Everywhere you look, people are succeeding. People you’ve been watching since you started seem to be far beyond where you thought you’d be right now. Why not me?  What am I doing wrong?  When is it going to be my turn?  We talk about success like it’s its own entity. An individual. A stand alone goal. But it’s not. It’s one side to a coin. On the other side is struggle. Both get exactly

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What to Do When You’re Creating Content to the Tune of Crickets

“Okay, here we go. No turning back now. I’ve drained every last ounce of brain power I have and poured my heart into this; the response to this post is going to be great! Wait for it. No, seriously. Just a little bit longer. Um, what time is it? Maybe it’s just too late. I’ll give it until the morning. Oh, there’s still nothing.” Raise your hand if this is a verbatim recount of a conversation you’ve previously had with yourself. Yeah, I see you slouching down in the back row. As deflating as these experiences can be, we can’t hide from them. Nor should we want to. The truth is you are getting a response. Listen a little more closely. That’s right: crickets. Not what you were hoping for?  That’s understandable. But don’t ignore them. I’ve been there before, and I didn’t listen to the crickets. In an attempt to

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Simple Tips to Significantly Reduce Stress

As someone who has suffered from anxiety and depression most of my life, I’m no stranger to stress, which used to be a major trigger for my anxiety. Learning to manage my anxiety and my triggers has forced my stress levels to plummet, which has been a boon for my mental health. This didn’t happen overnight; it took time and effort to learn how to navigate the stresses of life without letting them consume me. If you suffer from stress that feels insurmountable, it’s important to know that you can find ways to manage your stress and not let it manage you. How often have you, or even someone you know said, “I’m just so stressed”? Is it monthly? Weekly? Daily? According to a Gallup poll, 40 percent of Americans deal with stress frequently, with 36 percent stating they only feel stress sometimes. Stress can result from a variety of things

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3 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Strangers on the Internet

The Look: similar skirt from boohoo ($40.00) // similar dress by Tadashi Shoji from Nordstrom ($268.00) // Carolee Necklace [n/a] - Similar one from BaubleBar ($68.00) // similar Shoes of…

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How to Not Hate Yourself Long Enough to Enjoy the Twinkle Lights

The holidays are exhausting in every way, good and bad. And for everyone they’re tinted with memories of the past, good and bad. No matter…

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5 Reasons Why You Need to Give Words to Your Heart and Share Your Story

I have news for you. Ready for it? You have something extraordinary. I know that it can be so easy to look outside of yourself…

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