About

Welcome Gem,

Grab a pint of Ben & Jerry’s because we need to have a heart to heart.

You didn’t make your way here by accident. You found this place because you’re doing something big with your life. Maybe that means trying to start a business while everyone around you is encouraging you to get a “real” job. Maybe that means blogging after you’re done with your 9-5. Maybe that means you’re trying to get paid to travel the world. OR, maybe in your heart you want to do something like one of these things, but you’re just not sure if you have what it takes.

One thing’s for sure: dream chasing is freaking hard. Harder than you thought. And so, you’ve either stopped trying to play life by your own rules or you’re still hustling day after day, but the stress is starting to win (wearing your shoulders as earrings is NOT a current trend). You keep telling yourself it’s all going to pay off, but when the heck is that going to happen? It just simply sucks to wonder if things have to be like this in order for you to create the life that you want.

How do I know?

I’m not going to lie to you. The past five years of my life have been basically a disaster. I’ve been spending year after year chasing business models that didn’t work for me or my mental health (there’s a timeline of those below if you’re curious). I’ve lived paycheck to paycheck, or rather the version where you’re just short of paycheck to paycheck trying to dig yourself out of a hole that gradually gets a little more intense every month. I’ve let stress rule my life. I’ve lost my friends, my social life, and my sanity, all while, ironically, trying to create freedom and flexibility (way to go, Allyn).

Don’t get me wrong, it’s sure as hell made me stronger. I’ve learned from every mistake. Found purpose in every lesson. Used each fall to add to my reserve of resilience. But, I can’t do it anymore, I just can’t.

I need to get back to living.

I’m not good at a lot of things, but some of the things I kick some major butt at are: being real, being vulnerable, being relatable, telling stories, and giving strength to others.

So, this space is my story. It’s the little, everyday moments of my life that are building a stronger me, and I hope that sharing them will also help you build a stronger you. You’ll see some imperfect, real life stories from other people, too!

The Gem is dedicated to those who want to chase their dreams in style. And by “in style”, I don’t just mean in fashionable clothes. I mean in a way centered on creating confidence, backed by self-care, and wrapped in intention. You can read more about the mission behind The Gem here.

If you enjoy realness, deep conversations, and ice cream, you’re in the right place and we’re going to be great friends (as long as you brought Ben & Jerry’s for me, too!) ;).

I look forward to going through this journey with you.

With Inspiration,
Allyn