Posts by Margarethe Albertyn

From Blame to Bliss: Looking Internally to Improve Relationships

“Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as if you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind. – Anonymous” As the quote above so elegantly illustrates: Our beliefs are the seeds from which the fruits of our life grow. And, relationships are no exception. If you are currently not having the relationships that you desire (whether romantic, professional, familial, or friendship) then the quickest way to change your relationships is by changing yourself. Why? Well, in short, because it is absolute insanity for us to expect that we can change others without changing

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Rethink Your Resolutions: Writing Goals With Soul

I love to talk about Magic and to see how people react. For me, it is a way to weed out from my life the insane, out-of-touch, and downright crazy people who don’t believe in Magic. You see, Magic is very, very real. I believe Psychology, when understood and utilized, is Magic. I believe that my iPhone, when I think about what it is and what it can do, is Magic. And I believe the force that aspirates my lungs, grows my fingernails, and sprouts a small seed into a mighty tree must be some sort of magic. It is too wondrous not to be. Roald Dahl wrote: “Those who don’t believe in magic will never find it.” To me, magic is simply a frame of mind, and when you look for magic in everything, you will find it in everything. In that spirit, I would like to propose writing

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Manifesting: The Gap Between What You Want & How You Feel

Love and Career: The two areas in my life where it seems I am on a never-ending journey. Ah! The beauty of the human condition: We never get there. We are all striving. We are all growing. But, how is it that in some areas in our life we can be joyfully tolling our soil, while another area feels like swimming in a serious swamp of suffering? Why does growth in some areas excite us, while in others seeing the gap between where we are and where we want to be, feels like crossing the Grand Canyon? The suffering I’m talking about stems from a psychological phenomenon called Cognitive Dissonance, that is not unlike creating a Grand Canyon in your mind. It is the discomfort we experience when we perceive an unmanageable gap between where we are and where we want to be. Now, not everyone that wants to be

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