Category Mental Health

How I Manage My Anxiety While Running a Business

Gem Resource – Master Class on how to get through anxiety on a day-to-day basis and what strategies have allowed me to become a successful business owner while living with anxiety  First of all, I want you to know that you are 100% completely normal for having anxiety while running a business. You’re also still 100% completely capable of acquiring your big dreams despite this struggle. I know this because I’m right there with you battling my own mental burdens all day every day. Next, let’s get something straight. As defined by Google, anxiety is: a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome. Businesses are founded upon uncertainty. No one actually knows how things are going to pan out or what the journey will look like so it’s usual, perhaps even expected, that anxiety is going to show up along the way. (In a UCSF study, 49%

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The Difference Support Makes with Rebecca Nash

You may not see it, but everything you do – from the way you run your business to how you interact with your clients – stems from your story and what you’ve been through. One of the first exercises I walk my clients through (in fact, Rebecca was the very first person I walked through this process!) is determining the theme of their business in one word. Most of the time, people have no idea what this is, and I can often see it before they do. For Rebecca, her standout superpower is support. It’s not that she’s supportive because she’s a nice person (which is totally true), she’s supportive because of her story. From suffering from mental illness and spending four years raising her daughter as a single mom to managing three learning disabilities and a full time job while running a business (Rebecca Nash Photography), this Gem has seen the contrast

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15 Little Things Every Person With Anxiety Needs

Having anxiety is like having butterflies in your stomach for any and every given reason, only they’re not friendly, flirty butterflies, they’re more like angry bees. I was recording videos (for the first time ever) last week for From Struggle to Shine (a program where I teach entrepreneurs to strategize stories to build deeper connections with and more support from their audiences) and I felt like said bees were going to be the death of me. There’s physical discomfort – stomach churning, heart racing – topped with mental chaos, not one thought after the other, but all together to create a nonstop buzz.. What do I say? How many freaking times am I going to need to record this before I get it? Will my clients think I’m an idiot? Are my forehead wrinkles showing? I’m too young for forehead wrinkles. Do I really need to do video content? (Yes

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How to Create Real Life Practical Magic

Over Thanksgiving, I dug in to instances of what I call Practical Magic (for more on this concept, you’ll love Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear). After a particularly dramatic day, my fibromyalgia went haywire and I felt myself becoming overwhelmed, unable to stop it, and furious with myself for this inappropriate timing. What did I do? I got a hot shower, the release the water allowed me was striking. I was able to let go of all the effort I had made to keep it together all day long. The liquid hitting the top of my head felt exactly like a spell designed to remove the tension. Real life magic. I was so happy by that comfort that I cried. Let’s talk about what actual magic is and how to create more of it in your life: Practical Magic Method #1: Engage with the elements in full vulnerability Water,

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How to Not Hate Yourself Long Enough to Enjoy the Twinkle Lights

The holidays are exhausting in every way, good and bad. And for everyone they’re tinted with memories of the past, good and bad. No matter what, don’t forget that what Catherine O’Hara reminds the airport attendant in Home Alone, it’s also “the season of perpetual hope.” So, by jingle, I have hope that I won’t always hate myself. That’s my determined Christmas wish. In the last few years since graduation, I’ve come a long way. I was fortunate enough to have the time to tackle my anxiety, depression, and PTSD head-on. Skilled therapists, mentors, family members, and other close confidants helped guide my ambition away from external rewards and turned it inward to securing my mental health. No one close to me would deny how hard I’ve worked. [convertkit form=4951396] Overwhelmed at first, I broke it into sections. I remember the moment: my mom was sitting in the bathtub with

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Less Stress, More Focus: Meditation for the Chaotic Mind

I am, for all intents and purposes, someone who is really, really bad at getting things done. No, really. It takes a special amount of motivation to get me to finish the things I start—from cleaning the kitchen, to making a schedule, to writing my novel. I have to be in the right mood; or at least in the right feeling. However, no matter how much I may not want to do something, life is such that I have to do things anyway (we’ve all been there). The biggest question I’ve had to answer for myself is this: how do I find more motivation within my life? How do I find more mindful productivity when the things I should be productive about feel more stressful than desirable? The clearest answer I’ve been able to find is meditation. To give myself time in my day to meditate, clear my mind, and

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Finding Strength in Loss

My dad was ridiculously determined to make me into a golfer (for real 😂). For years, I was so ashamed because when I thought about memories of him, our stupid fights about golf were often the first thing that came to my mind. I didn’t realize until recently just how important these moments were in shaping me into the [business]woman I’ve become today. Our conflicts taught me how to stand up for myself, to search for reasoning behind things I “had to do”, and how to negotiate (sure, I’ll suck it up and go golfing today if you take me to the mall tomorrow 😝). I’m now grateful for the resistance he challenged me with and I love him even more for it. 8 years ago today he took his life. I’ve spent a long time running from our memories out of fear they would only bring up pain. I can’t help

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Stay Focused and Productive with a Not-To-Do List

Do you ever feel like there’s not enough time in the day? Is “busy” your go-to response when people ask how you’re doing? Do you ever end your workdays feeling like distractions got the best of you and kept you from getting enough done? If so, you’re preaching to the choir. I’m a business attorney for creative entrepreneurs. I love running my own law firm, but staying focused and productive is always a challenge for me. Like many of my creative clients, I struggle with staying on track and not chasing the latest shiny objects. My job is all about protecting businesses, but in order to do that it’s really my productivity that needs protecting. Now, I’m not a productivity guru. But I’ve done a ton of research on the subject, and I’ve experimented with different tools and practices to keep myself on track. There’s one productivity tool that’s been

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