Category Self Development

How to Overcome Comparison and Collaborate Better with Others

I love to think of comparison as the little voice inside my head that starts to tell me I am not good enough. That if I try to do better or try something new, I’ll just fail. So, why even try? Then, I join in on a self-pity party and start to tear myself down – a spiral that gets me in a dark corner of self-doubt and toxic thoughts. RELATED: Why Self-Doubt is Actually Necessary for Your Success It’s not a good place to be. Once you’re there, it’s difficult to come out. It takes work to rid yourself of toxic thoughts (it can take years and usually requires the help of others). What you think really does determine who you become. So, you need to catch it before it gets to that dark corner. Why does the dark corner of self-doubt happen? Here is a break down: We make

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#DecideToShine: 4 Weeks to Improved Decision Making

Are you ready for another challenge, Gem?! I know I am! I can’t lie, we totally rocked the #ShineInto2016 challenge back in January! If you missed out, here’s your chance to get in on the action. The theme this time? Making great decisions! Are you running your business like a season of American Idol? Every week you get up to perform and then wait to hear feedback from the judges and the rest of the voices on social media? Are you getting so caught up in what your fans think that you’ve lost sight of your destination? Do you suffer from analysis paralysis? Or, maybe you missed out on getting the “just go for it” gene? Perhaps, you just have WAY too many ideas and absolutely no idea where to start (and finishing anything seems next to impossible). Recently, I’ve come to the realization that success is really a correlation of how

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From Blame to Bliss: Looking Internally to Improve Relationships

“Whatever you hold in your mind will tend to occur in your life. If you continue to believe as you have always believed, you will continue to act as you have always acted. If you continue to act as if you have always acted, you will continue to get what you have always gotten. If you want different results in your life or your work, all you have to do is change your mind. – Anonymous” As the quote above so elegantly illustrates: Our beliefs are the seeds from which the fruits of our life grow. And, relationships are no exception. If you are currently not having the relationships that you desire (whether romantic, professional, familial, or friendship) then the quickest way to change your relationships is by changing yourself. Why? Well, in short, because it is absolute insanity for us to expect that we can change others without changing

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What the Path to Living Authentically Looks Like

We all have moments in our lives where we were not true to ourselves – when we aren’t living authentically. Times like when we agreed to helping someone out when we would rather stay at home reading a book on our day off, or took a job that felt really uncomfortable but needed the money. Being inauthentic, means acting in ways that aren’t congruent with our values, preferences, and abilities, and it leaves us feeling empty, confused, exhausted, and adrift. The concept of being authentic is simple – it means being true to yourself. Authenticity is the ability to acknowledge our own values and then base our decisions on those values. Mike Robbins, a corporate trainer and the author of Be Yourself, Everyone Else Is Already Taken, says on authenticity in an article with Gaiam, “It is important because it liberates us from the pressures of always trying to be something else, always trying to be perfect.” People who

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9 Yoga Poses to Reduce Stress and Anxiety

Stress is slowly killing you. 10% of strokes are caused by work related stress. 1 in 5 Americans suffer from extreme stress. This includes heart palpitations and depression. Of all the human illnesses and disease, stress is the root cause of 60% of them. That is madness! We must make a much larger effort to reduce stress in our lives! Entrepreneurs know all about stress. Getting up early and staying up late (do we even know what the word “sleep” means?). Being the boss and the social media manager. Pouring yourself into your business. Thinking always, “if I can just get this done then I’ll relax”. But one thing leads to another and when you finally look up, it is 10pm. Where did the day go? RELATED: How Are You Doing Today? When you have your own business it’s hard to unplug. We feel like we’ll miss something important or people

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The Power of the Pen: How Writing by Hand Benefits the Brain

As our lives become more and more consumed by “life improving” electronic devices each day, one can easily argue that the art of handwriting is gradually becoming obsolete. Against common knowledge, the stationery and paper goods industry continues to grow year after year. Why? Maybe it’s because the craft of calligraphy is rapidly rising as an aesthetic Instagram practice, that we’re beginning to rediscover the excitement of snail mail (parisian inspired greeting cards anyone?), or Kate Spade’s glamorous line of writing materials… However, I think perhaps the more powerful reason is that the physical act of writing has a number of benefits. Not only can it improve productivity and help us achieve goals, but writing can also play a role in developing healthier mental wellness habits. RELATED: Analog Tools to Organize Your Brain (or Business) in the Digital Age Suggestive information aside, there may not be much scientific evidence to prove writing things down has memory enhancing

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Confidence Can Come from Our Worst Moments

Over the past few years, we’ve seen so many different opinions on how to build confidence and how to truly love ourselves. We praise celebrities that admit that they, too, have stretch marks and we celebrate every plus size model strutting down the runway. We have developed such a fixation on confidence coming from accepting our outward appearance that we do not realize our greatest source of confidence comes from our own strength. Without looking at confidence as multi-faceted and complex concept, we lose sight of how our experiences—both painful and pretty—play an equally important role in the of developing confidence and loving our appearances. RELATED: What Being Cyberbullied Taught Me about Social Media To be honest, confidence coming from a source outside of body positivity didn’t exist in my world for many, many years of my life. It wasn’t until I went on a date with a man who had recently returned from a deployment to Afghanistan that I had

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5 Ways to Stop Procrastination

“Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy.” – Wayne Gretzky. When we have so much to do and so little time, we tend to put less desirable tasks at the bottom of the to-do list. No matter what those less desirable tasks are, they’re no fun, often take a lot of work, and we aren’t always sure how to approach them, so we don’t want to do them (or we just decide that procrastinating on Pinterest is a much better option). But, putting off these urgent, less desirable tasks doesn’t mean we don’t have to complete them anymore. They still need to get done – they’re important. So, instead the tasks are left to be done at the last minute, further adding to the stress of life. RELATED: How to Make Your To-Do List More Efficient “The last

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