What I’m about to tell you is something you already know. In fact, you’ve known it for awhile, probably since like 4th grade.
Energy cannot be created or destroyed; it can only be transformed from one form to another. It’s the basic Law of the Conservation of Energy.
If you’re constantly expelling energy and not seeing results, you have to find a better solution for transferring that energy because either way, it’s going somewhere and it’s you’re job to steer it in the most efficient direction.
How do I know this? Because I’m currently dealing with the same problem. For SO long, I’ve been going above and beyond to put an excessive amount of energy into every client, project, post, and conversation I have. I thought that was the key to success. I thought constantly overachieving is what was going to help me grow my business. Well, that’s not completely true.
Read this next part carefully and embed it into your life because it took me a long time to come to terms with. Not everyone and every situation deserves your energy and attention.
That life-sucking client that is never happy no matter what you do? They have to go. The money isn’t worth your sanity (and you’re probably not getting paid enough to put up with their BS anyway). That dramatic employee that constantly runs to you with every itty bitty little issue and never gets anything accomplished? Tell them to hit the road. Whomever (or whatever) around you that isn’t giving back the energy you put into them, is not serving you. Never feel bad for cutting the fat out of your life (literally and figuratively). You don’t feel sorry for the carbs you cut back when you’re trying to slim down. No matter what area of your life this is applied to, it’s a necessary process for your health and wellbeing.
Consider everything around you that you absorb energy from and then think about all the things that you expel energy into. Are they balanced? Probably not. What does this unbalance lead to? Burn out (not good). Take time to become aware of what energizes you and fill your life with more of that. Also, make a promise to yourself today to get rid of whatever is draining your energy. When you do both of these, you’ll start to notice that your energy becomes more efficient, and when it’s more efficient, you can direct it better into the areas that need it the most. You only have so much energy, there’s not an unlimited supply, so where you put it is up too you! Use your energy wisely.
Energy is the driving force behind effort. When tend to view the energy cycle as energy –> effort –> action –> result. But, we’re leaving out an important component, the part that harnesses the energy expelled from the result; that’s intuition. Stop trying to see energy, you have to feel it! Know where your energy is coming from so that you can direct it to the right places to go.
By over-expelling my energy, I haven’t spent enough time on myself. My house is a mess, I eat like crap, my stress level is at an all time high. It’s not fun. But I’m working on it. I absolutely LOVE what I do, but I’ve spent the past few months stuck in a state of confusion trying to figure out why my hustle, drive, and determination weren’t enough to get me where I wanted to go. How could I be working my butt off all day every day and still be struggling to pay my bills? My energy was the problem. Putting too much out (into too many different areas) and not making it a priority to get it back was wearing me down. I’m taking back control of my energy and I hope you will too!