10 Things to Treat Yourself to This Month

It’s a precious time of year, one that we must be careful not to get swept away in and take for granted. A small, sweet space between the promises of a new year and the lessons (and stories!) from the one at hand. This month’s 10 Things to Treat Yourself to roundup is a beautiful balance of #GemFinds to help you honor the space between no longer and not yet to set a powerful, but present tone for 2017! 1.) A Statement That Says, “Let’s Cut to the Chase” I’m declaring 2017 the year of directness. No more sugar coating, no more dancing around someone else’s feelings, no more hiding your shine out of fear. The Cut to the Chase Necklace from 7 Charming Sisters is just the reminder you need to protect your own sparkle and not let anyone else waste your shine or your time! If this regal blue piece

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How to Create Real Life Practical Magic

Over Thanksgiving, I dug in to instances of what I call Practical Magic (for more on this concept, you’ll love Elizabeth Gilbert’s Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear). After a particularly dramatic day, my fibromyalgia went haywire and I felt myself becoming overwhelmed, unable to stop it, and furious with myself for this inappropriate timing. What did I do? I got a hot shower, the release the water allowed me was striking. I was able to let go of all the effort I had made to keep it together all day long. The liquid hitting the top of my head felt exactly like a spell designed to remove the tension. Real life magic. I was so happy by that comfort that I cried. Practical Magic Method #1: Engage with the elements in full vulnerability Water, fire, earth, air. Dare to depend on them for comfort. Humanity has always done this, and we

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How to Not Hate Yourself Long Enough to Enjoy the Twinkle Lights

The holidays are exhausting in every way, good and bad. And for everyone they’re tinted with memories of the past, good and bad. No matter what, don’t forget that what Catherine O’Hara reminds the airport attendant in Home Alone, it’s also “the season of perpetual hope.” So, by jingle, I have hope that I won’t always hate myself. That’s my determined Christmas wish. In the last few years since graduation, I’ve come a long way. I was fortunate enough to have the time to tackle my anxiety, depression, and PTSD head-on. Skilled therapists, mentors, family members, and other close confidants helped guide my ambition away from external rewards and turned it inward to securing my mental health. No one close to me would deny how hard I’ve worked. Overwhelmed at first, I broke it into sections. I remember the moment: my mom was sitting in the bathtub with the door

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Spending a Day with Fear (And Why We’re Now Friends)

For awhile, I thought fear was a real asshole – one of those toxic people that I just couldn’t have terrorizing my life anymore. Like, here I am trying to dream all these big dreams, do all this cool shit, and take big leaps, and fear’s gotta be all, “no you can’t”, “you’re not good enough”, “you’re going to screw everything up” and “get a real job”. And we’re not supposed to give those negative voices in our head a turn to speak, right? So I just shut fear up, which didn’t really work out so well because covering fear up is not only exhausting, but frustrating – like the pimple that no matter how much concealer you put on it, it just keeps breaking through, ugh! Then, in October I had the opportunity to attend the Fearless Warrior Yoga Conference. “Perfect!” I thought. “Teach me how to ditch my

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Less Stress, More Focus: Meditation for the Chaotic Mind

I am, for all intents and purposes, someone who is really, really bad at getting things done. No, really. It takes a special amount of motivation to get me to finish the things I start—from cleaning the kitchen, to making a schedule, to writing my novel. I have to be in the right mood; or at least in the right feeling. However, no matter how much I may not want to do something, life is such that I have to do things anyway (we’ve all been there). The biggest question I’ve had to answer for myself is this: how do I find more motivation within my life? How do I find more mindful productivity when the things I should be productive about feel more stressful than desirable? The clearest answer I’ve been able to find is meditation. To give myself time in my day to meditate, clear my mind, and

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How to Not Hate Yourself Long Enough to Enjoy the Twinkle Lights

The holidays are exhausting in every way, good and bad. And for everyone they’re tinted with memories of the past, good and bad. No matter…

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5 Reasons Why You Need to Give Words to Your Heart and Share Your Story

I have news for you. Ready for it? You have something extraordinary. I know that it can be so easy to look outside of yourself…

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Dear Entrepreneur: If You Were Your Bravest Self, What Would You Be Doing?

Dear Entrepreneur, When was the last time you gave yourself permission to dream big? When have you stopped work to think about where you want…

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