Tag Perfectionism

How To Battle Perfectionism + Not Let It Break You

I’m not perfect (gasp).  No one is.  No thing is.  It’s a simple idea, and something that should be chalked up to common knowledge.  So, why is it so difficult for me to admit?  Why do I cringe when I read what I wrote to open this newsletter? I’ve long struggled, and continue to struggle, with the idea of perfectionism (our previous Gem of the Week, Steffi Keung also opens up about this in her interview here).  When I was young and naive, I was convinced that ‘perfect’ was something attainable; that I could someday be the perfect person to everyone.  So I worked toward that goal.  I planned to be the perfect son, friend, student, worker, and significant other.  Every detail of every area of my life would be covered.  I would be accepted by all, and I’d excel in everything I attempted. Related Read: 3 Questions to Help You

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3 Questions to Help You Overcome Perfectionism and Improve Your Mental Health

Hi, my name is Wendy and I’m a perfectionist. (This is when you say “Hi Wendy!”) For the longest time I thought being a perfectionist was something to be proud of. I was a typical overachiever, straight A student. Even back when I was a kid I loved going to school. I was praised for my good grades. Being diligent and extremely detail-oriented, favoring quality over quantity, and working in a structured and organized manner; those were just some of my perfectionistic tendencies. I was convinced that these habits of perfectionism got me the good school results I got. Up until I entered the workplace that is. What I found was that corporate culture appreciates speed over diligence, quantity over quality, and group work in project teams over solo work. Needless to say, I was miserable. My perfectionism didn’t help me anymore. In fact, looking back, it had never helped

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How to Overcome Comparison and Collaborate Better with Others

I love to think of comparison as the little voice inside my head that starts to tell me I am not good enough. That if I try to do better or try something new, I’ll just fail. So, why even try? Then, I join in on a self-pity party and start to tear myself down – a spiral that gets me in a dark corner of self-doubt and toxic thoughts. RELATED: Why Self-Doubt is Actually Necessary for Your Success It’s not a good place to be. Once you’re there, it’s difficult to come out. It takes work to rid yourself of toxic thoughts (it can take years and usually requires the help of others). What you think really does determine who you become. So, you need to catch it before it gets to that dark corner. Why does the dark corner of self-doubt happen? Here is a break down: We make

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How to Overcome Perfectionism and Optimize Your Success

It’s really easy to get caught up in trying to be a perfectionist. After all, isn’t that what everyone wants on paper? Someone who pays so much incredible attention to every little miniscule detail and will overachieve for no particular reason. I’ve spent a lot of time trying to be a perfectionist. I would put on this front that not only were all the areas of my life filled with rainbows and butterflies, but that I also had every single butterfly aligned in perfect order, and color coordinated to its most efficient place. Here are a few things I’m currently working on to let go of perfection and optimize my success. The most important lesson here is that perfection isn’t found in the result, it’s found in the journey. If you don’t take the time to appreciate the journey and absorb all the knowledge and experience the process has to offer you, then

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